I’m Sapphire Dalton. spiritual healer, magistrate and supporting character from the mind of urban fantasy and cozy crime author, Martine Cullum. Today I am writing about the power of words and how they can be used to improve your life or, conversely, do untold damage.
An introduction to my thoughts on the matter
My healing practice has been built on beliefs that span the spiritual and the physical worlds. I believe strongly that what you put out into the world comes back to you. Whether that is three-fold as with the beliefs of WIccans or ten fold as is told in the Bible, it is clear to me that we want to attract only the positive to us.
The foundation of my beliefs is the understanding that thoughts are energy. If you would like to know more about this idea there is a wonderful book on the subject called The Biology of Belief, by Bruce H Lipton which looks at biology, psychology and spirituality through the world of quantum physics.
Long before reading The Biology of Belief, I had been an advocate of expressing my thoughts in a positive manner; putting out into the universe only what I hope to get back. In fact, the book series in which I am a supporting character, is largely based around the awakening spiritual and the 12 karmic laws, of which the Law of Attraction is one of the most important.
1. Working with the Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction can be considered to be made up of 7 subsets: Manifestation, Magnetism, Unwavering Desire, Delicate Balance, Harmony, Conscientious Action and Universal Influence. If you would like to explore these in more details, follow this link.
So, whilst it is not as simple as just changing the words we use, words are certainly the best place to start on this journey of manifestation.
2. Without the use of words, a thought will never manifest as a reality
Thoughts, like everything else that exits, are a form of energy, but they are an energy vibrating at a much higher level than the energy that we can touch and feel in our mundane world. In terms of the subtle bodies or the planes of existence, thoughts, as you might expect, take place on the mental level. The first step therefore, is to bring their vibration down into the physical world.
This can be done in a number of ways:
Put your thoughts into words and speak them out loud which creates existence on the lower vibration of sound. (It helps to speak them out loud to another person).
Write your words, or draw the image that represents them
Create a permanent record; a business plan, a life goal, a poem, a song… it doesn’t matter what, but the purpose is to create an intention with those words.
Share with others to cement that energy to the physical plane
3. No such word as ‘can’t’
One of the constant messages I got from my Dad as I was growing up, and a lesson I have always been grateful for was, is, ‘there is not such thing as can’t’. With this as the constant mantra in your mind, you can do anything, although that is something we will explore in another post.
For now, let us just focus on the use of negative words. I really can’t remember where I first read it, it might have been Louise Hay, but equally it could have been Betty Shine. Whoever it was, I did manage to remember what they said. ‘The brain cannot compute words like ‘can’t’ or ‘shouldn’t’ or ‘won’t’. The brain, in effect, ignores the negative. So, if you repeat a dozen times a day ‘I’m an ‘imbecile’ the brain will take that on board and accept that you are an imbecile. Likewise, if you repeat a dozen times a day ‘I am not an imbecile’, the brain will ignore the negative and still accept that you are an imbecile.
The only way to do it is to use the power positive. Be gentle and kind with yourself and use positive words.
‘I am an intelligent and wise person, who cares for myself in a positive way’.
4. If words are our tools, make sure you pick the right ones
So let’s think about the words that can attract positivity into our lives.
a. We might think about words associated with the act of giving: give, offer, donate, bequeath, lend, share.
b. Or words that reflect a belief in yourself: confidence, assurance, trust, courage or determination.
c. Positive words around forgiving. (This is in no way the same as permitting/sanctioning/tolerating improper behaviours): merciful, compassionate, tolerant and understanding.
d. Words of gratitude: grateful, thankful, appreciative, regard and recognition.
5. Our words define us
In everyday conversation, people will make assumptions about you based not only on how you look, but how you speak and what you say. Whilst making assumptions is something we can each strive to avoid doing ourselves, we have to accept that it happens. Defining ourselves through our words therefore comes in two ways. The conversations we have with each other, and the positive affirmations we create for ourselves.
a. Conversations with others. The old proverb states that Manners maketh man. We can break this down, as is done in great detail here, and we can say that:
‘Manners’ (politeness and a code of conduct)
‘Maketh’ (bring into creation over a period of time)
‘Man’ (the unique personality of all of humankind).
Even if, as Albert Mehrebian states, verbal communication makes up only 7 percent of communication is down to the words we use, it is vital to use the right ones.
b. Affirmations. According to the Queen of Affirmations, Louise Hay, there is always room to make your life ‘more positive, more loving and more prosperous’. Some of my favourites affirmations are:
‘My life is full of love and joy.’
‘I have all that I need and can share my abundance with others,’
‘I love and approve of myself right now.’
Try it, several times a day, with or without a mirror, until it becomes a reality.
6. Radiate positivity
In the immortal, but not very joyful words of Ed Sheeran, from the beautiful song Save Myself ‘Human beings are destined to radiate or drain’. Words are one of the main ways in which we can do either of these things. Be kind to yourself and remember the Law of Attraction, choose to be a radiator, not a drain. Share the love, the light, the positivity and the beauty of our world. Do it through your words and your actions.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone and by the end of it felt as though the life has been drained out of you. If you can remember, think about that conversation. What kinds of words were used? What tone of voice did the person adopt?
Conversely, think about a conversation where you have come away feeling enthused and motivated. What was different about that conversation?
Be kind to yourself and remember the Law of Attraction. Choose to be a radiator, not a drain. Share the love, the light, the positivity and the beauty of our world. Do it through your words and your actions.
To begin with, you will have to think about what you are doing, choosing your words carefully. Before you know it, it will become second nature, you will have created your more positive personality
7. Exceptions to every rule
Whilst we have established that it attracts unnecessary negativity to always be complaining about health problems, bad luck or the awful things that have happened, there are times where it is important to ‘say it like it is’. Here are a few such moments.
A medical appointment. your doctor needs to know what is going on with your body, the facts, not the many positive tools and resources you have put in place to cope.
A legal statement. Your new thinking may well allow you to forgive the person who you witnessed commit a crime, but you are doing them no favours by failing to report it appropriately as their criminal behaviour may escalate if not nipped in the bud.
Starting a business. A business is very much a creation on the physical plane, though it undoubtedly came into being on the mental plane. When it comes to sitting down with your business advisor and/or bank manager, keep your feet firmly grounded on physical plane and use language they understand.
8. Create your own personal affirmation
Think about you. What would you like to change? What would you like to influence? What would you like to bring into your life? What would you like to get rid of?
Let’s say, for the sake of an example, that the answers to those four questions are:
What would I like to change? – To become less selfish
What would I like to influence? – The amount of respect I am shown at work.
What would I like to bring into my life? – More money.
What would I like to get rid of? – A tendancy to be lazy. (Perhaps I should make that ‘A tendancy to be bossy, but I quite like that about myself).
Your affirmation might be: I am generous with my time and energy, I am deservingly valued and always search for value in others
9. Dream, express, create
So what are you waiting for? The power to change your life for the better is within your reach. Let’s start turning dreams into reality.
1. Decide what it is that you want to change. Start small at first if you are unsure. Manifest more patience, more love, more understanding.
2, Write it, speak it, draw it; get it out there in the real world.
3. Make it happen whether it is a business, a project, an event or a reinvention of yourself. You can make it happen if you use the right words.
10. Share what you have learned with others
Keep a journal of your intentions and your progress so that you can see when things begin to change. Commit to selecting your words carefully and saying your affirmations aloud every day. And when you are ready, share what you have learned with others who will benefit from it. Give thanks.
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